During my twenties, after each of the two break-ups that I went through (as you probably could tell from the ABOUT section, I didn’t meet many girls), my mother would insist that it was my fault– that either I had treated the girl poorly, or that I had picked the wrong girl in the first [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 29 Jul 09]
_I_ was once afraid to take responsibility for my choice of action my romantic life.
My life before my transition period.
I was always afraid to take responsibility for my own choices in my romantic life. Back in those days, I wasn’t man enough to do so. Instead, I sought external reasons for my decisions. I would [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 18 Jun 09]
While it’s important to “just be confident” when meeting women, there are some harmful side-effects. In this video demonstration, we get to see a first-hand account of what happens when Elmo’s self-confidence gets out of control:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w14aCTMcrgQ
All kidding aside, _I_ once had no clue what it meant to “just be confident.”
My life before the transition [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 25 Dec 08]
_i_ missed many potential romantic encounters because I was stuck in my own thoughts.
My life before the transition period.
Back when I was in college, I worked at an office on campus. It was a really relaxed place to work– very casual. There were somewhere around two dozen students working there, rotating through various shifts at [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 15 Dec 08]
_I_ seek external validation.
My life before the transition period.
External validation is the process of confirming that one’s life is relevant and meaningful by means that come from outside of the oneself. I have always sought this from my peers, my classmates, my friends, my co workers, my boss, my parents, and my lover. This is [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 29 Oct 08]
_I_ once had a low sense of self worth in my romantic relationships.
My life before the transition period.
Throughout all of the relationships that I was in for the first 29 years of my life, I had very low self esteem. In order for me to illustrate one particular example of this, I need to go [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 27 Oct 08]
As I explained in this other blog entry, the ABCs of Attraction did not teach me how to be a better relationship partner to a girl. However, it did give me the tools I needed to seek a healthy relationship when no one else could.
Before I took the ABCs of Attraction bootcamp, my view [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 17 Oct 08]
My name is William, and I’m an Asian American man. For the first 29 years of my life, I was unable to get a date.
It’s difficult for me to describe to you how crippled I felt going through life, up to the age of 29, not being able to do the simplest thing in [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 16 Oct 08]
My name is William, and I’m an Asian American man. I was once afraid to make myself a better man.
I detailed in this blog entry how I am a nerd. I don’t think that my being a nerd was a bad thing. I still am a nerd now, and I feel fine. However, I believe [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 03 Sep 08]
My name is William, and I’m an Asian American man. I once was unable to handle rejection.
I once had a self esteem problem. I didn’t recognize it at the time, but I did indeed feel the symptoms of it. One of the biggest symptoms of my former low self esteem is:
Paralyzing fear of being rejected [...]
(Topic: 1. One Asian American Man's Life, Social Anxiety )[Written on 20 Aug 08]
