The ABCs of Attraction Method Gave Me The Tools I Needed To Seek A Healthy Relationship

As I explained in this other blog entry, the ABCs of Attraction did not teach me how to be a better relationship partner to a girl. However, it did give me the tools I needed to seek a healthy relationship when no one else could.

Before I took the ABCs of Attraction bootcamp, my view of romance was pretty restrictive. I didn’t think that I could meet girls during the day, I didn’t think I could meet girls at night clubs, I didn’t think white girls wanted to date me (due to mass-media stereotypes of Asian American men), and I didn’t think Asian girls wanted to date me (due to them wanting to be with white men). Click here for more detail on why I thought this way. Fast forward to the present day, and I already know in my mind, based on my life experiences over the past year, that absolutely none of this is true. They were all barriers that existed in my mind that prevented me from meeting, dating, and romantically connecting with girls.

But I digress. Back to the way I was before I took my bootcamp– I had the restrictive mentality that I mentioned in the previous paragraph. What this did was effectively prevent me from ever experiencing what it would be like to be in a real relationship. After all, how can I possibly seek a healthy and loving relationship based on trust, honesty, and sincerity, if I can’t even meet a girl to go out on a date with her?

That’s where the ABCs of Attraction comes in. I knew that I needed to first date women in order to even begin to think about seeking a healthy relationship with a girl.

Did I know how to talk to girls? Nope.

Did I know how to convey the best aspects of my personality and life accomplishments to a girl? Nope.

Did I have a mentality of trying to improve every aspect of my life? Yes.

Even before taking the bootcamp, I knew, intuitively, that a person who does not have the rest of his life (outside of the world of romance) can never really be in a healthy relationship with a girl– he doesn’t even have his own life in order! For my entire life I strove to achieve awesome things in my academics, my career, my volunteer work, and my hobbies. This mentality of improving every aspect of my life was 100% completely confirmed by the ABCs of Attraction instructors. They repeated, over and over and over again that the method won’t produce long term consistent results unless a man improves every aspect of his life, just as I had been doing. This was one aspect of my life that I knew I was on the right track with. The ABCs of Attraction method kept me focused on that track.

However, all of the academia, professional accomplishments, community volunteer accomplishments, and hobbies in the world never helped me learn how to meet, date, and romantically connect with women. I lacked the tools needed in order to seek a healthy relationship.

What a relief it is for me to know, finally, at the age of 31, that I will never have a problem meeting, dating, and romantically connecting with a girl ever again! I met a girl shortly after I took my bootcamp. We were in a committed relationship, but she left me. As I had mentioned in this blog entry, that doesn’t mean that I know how to be a good relationship partner. Not by a long shot. But damn, it feels great knowing that I have all the tools I need to seek a healthy relationship and try again.